Extra socializing, spending, decorating, traveling and accommodating can stir up holiday anxiety even when the holidays are something we look forward to. We love the holiday season but dread the low-level anxiety (sometimes not so low-level) that comes along with it for many of us.

努力麻木焦虑，我们经常结束。我们得到忙碌，喝更多，吃得多和过度，所以我们不必过度感受到。我明白了，我已经完成了，我不再这样做了。

The cure for holiday anxiety (most of it at least)

We all experience the holidays and holiday anxiety differently so this isn’t an exact prescriptive. Take what works best for you and leave the rest behind. If you aren’t sure, treat these recommendations as experiments.

我最近问了万博体育官方APP更少的Instagram社区if they experienced holiday anxiety and what caused it and received hundreds of responses. More responses than from any other question I’ve every asked.

假日焦虑的原因包括......

• 礼品购买
• Gift giving
• Gift receiving (especially while paring down on stuff)
• Trying to make everyone happy
• Trying to do it all
• My expectations
• Family expectations
• Family dynamics
• Family drama
• Wanting it to be perfect
• Not enough time
• Not enough money
• 没有足够的能量

3个地方你可能会发现假日焦虑（以及该怎么办）

即使有数百个回复，答案也落入了少数类别。以下三个领域似乎导致了大多数假期焦虑。

1. Gifts
礼品交换是假日焦虑的最高来源之一，这意味着......你不是唯一一个。当你不想和也不想的人一起时，你很可能更换礼物。只有一种方法可以了解，这与您通常与您通常的人交换并相应调整的人进行对话。现在交谈而不是12月可能会让谈话更容易。

决定什么效果最好。出席前的存在，然后礼物，没有礼物，一些礼物......你决定。同意午餐，晚餐或徒步旅行，而不是礼品或交换耗材，如果这就是您的达成。

If you want to gift non-thing things, here are a few things I recommend …

• Soulful Simplicity Course:如果您正在考虑为您所爱的人（包括您自己）的礼物，请在1月份加入我this six-week video course。If you join early, you’ll be invited to two private live calls with me this year. During the course, we’ll cover everything from making you (and a life you want) to making space and making time. There’s a private community and you get life-time access to all content. If you’ve pre-ordered my new book,里约奥运会赞助商manbetx万博，我们将向您发送20美元的折扣码。You can read all about the Soulful Simplicity Course right here。
• Meditation:Give the gift of guided meditation with the标题应用程序。您可以在一个月一次到一生的订阅。
• 开始一个小书俱乐部：Invite a friend to start a tiny book club with you. Gift them aBook of the Month Clubmembership and you can pick from a selection of books each month to read and chat about.
• Getaway:Plan a weekend getaway (stay or experience) withairbnb.。From creative and cooking classes to outdoor adventures, gift an experience and make memories.
• Workout:分类订阅在整个美国提供各种课程。尝试瑜伽，普拉提，骑自行车和其他健身课程。
• One less gift:If gift giving isn’t for you this year, and you want to give your friends and family permission to opt-out, send them这个证书少一份礼物。
• Donate/Volunteer:Make a donation in the name of friends and family. I’m making donations this year in the name of the Be More with Less Community to希望效果&Together Rising.You may also choose to volunteer together in lieu of exchanging gifts.

2.期望
假期缺乏我们的期望，或者当我们认为我们缺乏对他人的期望时，会发生假期焦虑。谈到假期缩短时，首先致力于留在礼物。每天都会通过注意到你感激的东西来寻找快乐。当事情侧向或者不要因为曾经被希望而不是绝望而迷失，而不是感激地救出。

考虑与您在假期前的人或您没有见过的人的温和谈话。不要管理期望，而是以更好的方式鼓励爱和联系。在社交活动之前重新连接，特别是一个潜在的高紧张聚会将有助于缓解一些可能经历的焦虑。

When it comes to the expectations of others, remind yourself that they are out of your control. You don’t get to decide or manage what other people expect, or how they feel or deal with things. That’s not part of your job description. It can’t be. You are up to you — your feelings, reactions and expectations —all up to you. Their feelings, reactions and expectations — not up to you. This should be incredibly freeing to know. If you can’t control or change it, why spend any more time feeling anxious about it?

3. Overwhelmed with too much to do

Honor the yes AND the no. When you have trouble resisting or saying no to everything that comes your way, remember how you feel when you say yes to too much. Then think about how you feel when you say yes to the right things, to what matters most to you. When you say yes to what you care about and what you love, it feels so good.

列出您所做的所有假日。包括礼品，装饰，活动，烘焙，节日卡和之间的一切。考虑削减你所做的一些事情，因为你认为你有望做到它们并优先考虑为你和你的家人带来真正的意义和喜悦的东西。

If you think that protecting time for what matters is selfish, remember how much more giving and loving you can be when you are healthy, rested, and engaged in your favorite things. It’s from that fulfilled place that you can give and serve in ways you just can’t when you are overwhelmed and exhausted.以下是您在假期期间可以照顾好自己的某种方式。

The most meaningful holiday seasons aren’t the ones with the most presents, the best meals, the craziest parties and the least amount of sleep. We find meaning in the holidays and all of our days when we create space to listen to our hearts, time to believe in magic, and to create the love, health and presence required to show all the way up for our lives.

让我们自己，彼此允许少花钱，少，在整个假期中减少，所以我们可以享受本赛季的真正礼物。